THE CAUSE OF ANGER Posted by ShALiH_SeIsO , Wednesday, October 21, 2009 at 11:19 PM, in

The Causes Of Anger

Quite often when we are angry, we don't really stop to ask ourselves the one question that would help us to solve our problem.

We don't ask ourselves, "What do I need to learn to stop being so angry?"

This could be because we are simply too angry to think straight, so it doesn't occur to us to get to the bottom of the problem. But it could also be because it naturally forces us to consider our problem, so that we may start to hunt for a solution to it.

Here are some common causes of anger in our lives.
Events that we cannot control

The ending of a relationship, the death of someone we love… this type of event can make anyone feel angry. We feel angry at the world and think "why did this have to happen to me?"

This type of anger is understandable since there are always going to be aspects of our lives that we cannot fully control. However that doesn't mean you shouldn't seek help and advice to manage your anger.
Low self esteem

If life has gone against you recently, you may be feeling angry because of it. Even though some events may have been directly due to your own actions, it's not always easy to see the pattern.

For example, if you have lost your job you won't need to ask yourself "Why am I so angry?" But it could be that you consistently put in the lowest performance of everyone in your company, which is why you were chosen to go. Low self esteem can often lead to people feeling angry at the world and at their undesirable surroundings.
Misinterpreting signals from others

Low self esteem can also lead to feeling suspicious of what others think of us. For example, someone may make an innocent comment that makes you feel angry, because you interpret that it was meant for you.

This might be very far from being the truth but it can still result in feelings of anger, both at you and at them. So don't think, "Why am I so angry?" Instead, think about what you can do to resolve that anger.
Stressful events

There are innumerable events that can happen in our lives that can make us feel stressed. And the more stressed we are, the more likely we are to put ourselves on what we call 'a short fuse'.

When this happens we can find ourselves blowing up at other people when we normally wouldn't do so. In this case it is essential to find the root cause of our stress so that we don't get angry and vent our frustrations quite so easily.

There may be several reasons that will answer the question "Why am I so angry?" But until we sit down and think about the answers we cannot hope to make progress on the path to releasing that anger.

So be sure to take time out and examine your feelings, because only they will be able to tell you the answers you need.